So, I was telling you ppl about myself. Here i remember sth... Its an aspect of shubhangi's thinking.(Told u she thinks a lot !)....

It goes like...
She had noticed that everytime you meet a person - friend, classmate, uncle-aunty, or for that matter anyone... you are asked a question " How are you ?"...

As for me, i used to reply "fine.... and you ?".

Regarding this, she thinks that neither me, nor the second person wants to know my well-being and ppl have started using it as a conversation starter. And i personally feel that she is right. So ... where is the fault ?

I'll tell you something today... something close to me.

I call it communication skills. Most ppl lack effective communication skills.This is no seminar on that so am not asking you to procure a book on that, neither am preparing u for an interview. but yes...

Have you ever wondered why that guy/girl is a hit with ppl, even though i am smarter and for that matter, better looking ?

To be genuine, I have.

One such person is Ishan. Just look at his talks... he knows everything about effective communication.Just listen to him carefully next time.

here r 3 topics you can lay stress upon...i got them frm a book by "leil lowndes"

#1. Sticky eyes.

I have read that 'sticky eyes' is a gr8 comm. skill. Lemme explain...
while talking to a person, stick your eyes to his/her face...(ie establish an eye contact)... dont have an aggressive look... The person will feel that you have got genuine intrest in whatever hes telling you about. Dont you like getting attention ? well everybody does. And yes, this technique is more affective with gals. Guys tend to get uncomfortable with too much eye contact.

#2. Smile.

Yes ! just smile. A small little smile .

:-)


I bet all of you have heard about it. But heres a trick of making this weapon more lethal : I call it personalised smile. Suppose all my friends are talking in a group... chatting. And say i want surbhi to know that shes the center for my attraction...(I said suppose... so stop giggling).
Yaa... so i will give every body the general smile i have... but when she looks at me, i give her that nice soft smile of mine. She will notice it and will certainly have a better impression about me.

So, reserve your smile. look at a person, stare him for a second.... and then shower him with that smile of yours. she will feel that that smile was for her.... especially for her. otherwise she'll feel "ye to sabsee aise hi smile karta hai... Whats special ?"

#3. Know thy target

Theres a way of getting into the tone of your target... say karan comes to me and is disappointed by his AIEEE result... Now say i had to discuss our plan to go to connaught place together. Now, if i say directly "chor yaar chal cp chalte hain", he might feel i didnt listen to him at all.
So, i'd rather get into his tone by saying "haan, mere exams bhee bahaut acchee nahi hue thee... koi baat nahi kisi aur college mein ho jayegaa. Cheerup dude !!! chal cp chal.... u will refresh urself".... u guessed it right, this will have a +ve effect on him and he might as well go with you.

Nature has got its own ways... Have you ever noticed how a mother soothes the child when hes crying ? She doesnt say bluntly " chup hoo jao."

Instead, she first catches the baby's tone (the crying one) and starts imitating it... She too starts... "areee aree areee kyaa huaaaa ??? choot lag gaye ???" and then modulates her voice to a normal tone " koi baat nahi....brave boy hoo..." and finally to cheer him up, she laughs and cheerfully says " challo challo chocolate khaate hai...."
See, how simple, yet so enchanting it is... We all are like big babies here. So, go by that way and see if it helps you.




Hah ! am tired and my backside is paining. As always please send feedback... It gets me going.

Thanks for that patience of yours.